Saturday, September 30, 2017

Are Goths Depressed?

Yes and no. Depression is not a requirement for being goth, as being goth isn't a requirement for being depressed. We all know someone who's been depressed. You don't? Well you do, cause depression is an invisible illness. That's why seeing someone in black doesn't mean they're depressed! This is not the victorian age, where someone in black means that they have recently lost a loved one. You can't tell by someone's appearance what they feel, what their story is, what they've experienced and what illness they have.

Goths are the happiest, bubbliest, friendliest, most positive people I know! I'm sure most people who know one can agree with that. BUT as goths do, we acknowledge that not everything in the world is wonderful all of the time. We like darkness, mystery, history - even death (not that we wanna die. we go to picnics in the graveyard for the peaceful, beautiful and historical environment.)! We are romantic and dramatic people, maybe even slightly old-fashioned, and we see beauty where others don't.

Now, a lot of teenagers nowadays romanticize depression and other mental health issues, whether they call themselves goth or not. That is wrong, even though it's a good thing that people talk about it - cause it needs to! It's not ''cool'' to be depressed. It's terrible! It doesn't make you more attractive to others, people aren't going to come rushing over to fix your broken heart.
I'm not saying that ALL teenagers who claim to be mentally ill are just looking for attention, but I have often seen it, and especially online and in goth related groups. Many really do think that to be a goth you have to be depressed, wear all black, worship the devil and be violent.
Another thing that happens to a lot of teens, especially alternative kids, is that they get bullied for being different. Now THIS CAN contribute to developing depression, as well as pressure / restricting of freedom from parents, lack of proper friends, not doing well in school, etc. There are also more serious things that can happen to someone at a young age which can lead to depression or other mental illness. This is why it is important to seek help as soon as possible. It's hard, but just one word to anyone is the first step on the road to recovery. Be kind to yourself and strong, and you will make it through. Just remember that often, you can't do it alone.

Most adults still find it taboo to talk about these issues. Probably cause we grew up without anyone talking about it, it was all hidden away from us. It was and still kind of is shameful to have mental illness. Even post-partum depression isn't talked about as much, something that's so common! But no, you should be ASHAMED of yourself to DARE to be sad when you have ''so much to be happy about''. This is really harmful to the ones who suffer from it, cause they will feel like they are crazy, and be afraid to talk to someone and get help.

I have suffered myself from depression on-and-off since I was 13. That's 10 years, and about half of it has been spent suffering from it. Yes I am confirming the awful ''stereotype'', but I am not ashamed. Mental illness happens to anyone! I'm not going to hide that fact just because we don't want people to think that goths aren't depressed. Goths can be satanists too (not to be confused with actual devil-worship, people)! Sometimes two things cross. Goth culture is huge, and it's impossible to say that ''goths aren't this or that'' - cause it isn't true. Goths can like to knit, Hello Kitty, sports, anything! Just like regular people. It's weird that a lot of people think that ''just because you like this, you can't like that''. Why do we think this way?

Yes, you can be a goth and depressed - it doesn't have anything to do with each other. You don't listen to ''Bela Lugosi's Dead'' and instantly start having anxiety and depression. I started suffering from depression before I discovered goth music. No, I didn't become one because I was depressed either. My psychologists didn't give me black clothing and cds when I got treated! Though that would have made me really happy! You see, our interests make us happy. I am happy when I get elaborately dressed up, dance to good music or read a nice book. A sign of a depressed goth is most likely them NOT dressing goth anymore, NOT listening to music, NOT reading, NOT creating art. Cause when you suffer from depression and anxiety, it is crippling. You can barely get out of bed, you don't want to do the things you like anymore. You're not anything anymore. THAT is what depression does to you. If a goth is depressed, you wouldn't even see them! If you did, you probably wouldn't recognize them.

I'm going to round this off now, as it is very lengthy and you probably have gotten the point by now. So in conclusion: Goths CAN be depressed, just like any other people. We are not immune to illnesses! We are just people after all, and anyone can get depressed! Don't assume anything about anyone. Also, if you know someone who is depressed or you are yourself, please talk to someone and get help. You do not deserve to feel this way! I know how you feel, and you'd be surprised that others you know might know too! If someone speaks up, others will. I hope that some day this won't be such a shameful thing to talk about.

I recommend checking out this video by Simon / CoalCandy! He has an awesome youtube channel.

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